Speed Dating

Like in any other game, speed dating is fun and has its own rules that you should follow. This game is usually advertised and singles that want to participate gather at a café or bar or other places. Each player is given a name tag (either containing your real name or a screen name) and a scorecard.

Each date is timed – A timer that allows you to spend a fixed amount of minutes (ranging from four to eight) with each companion rules the game. When your minutes are over, a bell is rung, signifying that all players should shift to the next seat to meet the next person.

Discussion is fairly open – Usually you are allowed to discuss anything with the potential partner except your real name (if you want), your job, and where you work.

Mark each date on the scorecard – Following each introduction, participants mark on their scorecard whether or not they would be interested in having a real date with the other person. Make sure you don't let your date see you scores.

After the game – Once the speed dating ends, the organizers check the scorecards and match up which partners have mutual interest in each other. In some versions of speed dating, only the women are given the phone number; while in others, both the woman and the man are given the number to follow up on for a date.

What Woman Can Do Male Can't

we knew we had to post our own rebuttal. Behold, our list of 21 things only chicks can do.

1. Get pregnant: Sure, guys contribute but they’ll never get as close (literally!) as we get to our own babies.

2. Fake it: Cue the famous scene from When Harry Met Sally. Enough said.

3. Ask for directions: We have no problem pulling over and asking for help. Consulting the GPS doesn't count either, boys.

4. Look sexy while sipping fruity cocktails: What guy do you know can look hot with a pink drink in his hand? Oh, and by the way, we look damn good drinking beer too.

5. Live longer: It’s a fact, women live five to ten years longer than men. Plenty of time to take a few more vacations, have a few more orgasms, and maybe hook another hubby.

6. Have multiple orgasms: No need for us to wait and, um, reload.

7. Multitask: We can talk to our BFF on the phone, while watching America’s Next Top Model and doing lunges. No sweat.

8. Get a new last name: Or just drop it all together, à la Fergie and Madonna.

9. Wear skirts: They keep us sooo much cooler in the summer than men’s shorts. Plus, a hot mini is sure to score us a few free drinks at the bar.

10. Get out of a speeding ticket: A little smile and a “Sorry, officer” is all it takes to get off scot-free.

11. Become a cougar, not a dirty old man: Sure, the idea of an older man sounds hot, but the reality is often a skeezy shmuck. Cougars, however, are fierce. Like: Demi Moore.

12. Wing it on the dance floor...convincingly: Guys will be so busy checking out your shaking booty, they won’t even notice you’re not a great dancer.

13. Wear high-heels: They add four inches to our height and make our legs look fab. Hey guys, what do your ratty old sneakers do for your physique?

14. Flirt with the bouncer: We bat our eyes at the doorman and get in the door with no cover charge. If a guy were to try it, we’re thinking he might get kicked out of line.

15. Blame it on PMS: Just say the words "cramp," "tampon" or “period” and men instantly let you have your way.

16. Grow out our hair: We miss a haircut appointment and our hair just looks longer and sexier. Guys miss theirs and they start looking like they’re homeless.

17. Cover up a zit: Both men and women are prone to blemishes, but one of the sexes has a multitude of concealers and creams at their disposal to cover them up.

18. Get aroused without the entire room knowing it: We don’t have to cross our legs or grab the nearest textbook whenever we get turned on in public.

19. Wear a thong: They make our ass look great and are a surefire way to turn on a guy. If a dude tried donning one, well, it would just look gross!

20. Get a manicure: Hanging at the nail salon is just a normal day for a woman. But a guy getting a mani/pedi is bound to get weird looks.

21. Make a longer list of our talents. The Askmen list was pretty short with only ten measly items on it. Oh, well. Looks like we win again!

source: www.cosmopolitan.com

Things That Guy Should Avoid in a Date

Most of girls are very sensitive beings and they can't help it if they have a long list of standards when it comes to the right guy they should be dating. Meeting a girl for the first time is the most critical time of the year. This is when they start to observe and get to know what kind of guy you are. No, they're not rude. They're just born that way. Here are a few things that can turn a girl off. Find out how many you have and do something about it. And I mean, now!

• Being a slob. The cleanliness department is ruled by the female species. So make sure you wear clean clothes, brush your teeth, cut your nails and comb your hair. Hygiene is a must.

• Drinking and smoking. Girls will eventually accept the fact that you have a vice, but don't drink binge or smoke yourself blind when they're around.

• Hanging out with your buddies a lot. Sure, they're your friends but girls do find it annoying if you spend too much time with them, especially if you ditch her for the sake of your buddies.
• Your obsession with Sports. Lucky you if she's a sports enthusiast. But really. Girls would rather talk of something else than discussing the current score board.

• Talking about your ex. As long as she doesn't you about them it's completely unacceptable. Especially when she's now your girlfriend.

• Talking about other girls. It's a complete insult when you try to check out other girls in the presence of your date. It's downright rude so cut the crap.

• Being jobless. Girls are looking for guys who are independent and can pay for their dates. If you're still living with your parents and jobless, then forget it.

• Acting needy and desperate. Clingy guys? Nah!

• Being insensitive. Sometimes, girls want you to read their minds. But you can't. The least you can do is be sensitive to detect that something's wrong.

• Ignoring them. You don't want to be ignored. You know the feeling right? So show us a little attention. Better yet, give it all.

10 Things Woman Better than Man

1. We evolve hotter.

A recent study revealed that women are getting better looking through evolution; meanwhile, men are staying the same. After following more than 2,000 people through four decades of life, the study showed that attractive women had 16 percent more children than average-looking chicks and that beautiful people are 36 percent more likely to have a daughter as their firstborn. All those gorgeous daughters mean more beautiful women than in past generations.

2. We survive car accidents more often.

This is sad but true: Men are 77 percent more likely to die in a car accident than women, according to a study done by Carnegie Mellon University. Our boyfriends should be thanking us when we nag them to "Wear your seatbelt!"

3. We're better at seeking comfort.

A Mind survey of 2,000 people revealed that women are far more likely than men to talk through their problems. Fifty-three percent of women talk to their friends about what's stressing them out, as opposed to 29 percent of men.

4. We're more recession-proof.

According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 80 percent of those who have lost their jobs since December 2007 have been men. Ouch. This could be because male-dominated fields have been hit the hardest, like manufacturing and finance. That really sucks...but hey, maybe it's time more men became nurses and educators.

5. We graduate college more often.

We already know that female enrollment is higher than male, but the Department of Education's statistics reveal that men are also less likely than women to graduate and get their bachelor's degrees. Men are also more likely to take longer than five years to complete their degree.

6. We eat healthier.

A survey of more than 14,000 people, conducted by the University of Minnesota, showed that women choose far healthier foods than men. While men are more likely to chow down on frozen pizza and red meat, women are piling fruits and veggies onto their plates. It all sounds pretty obvious, but we get so much grief for our chocolate addictions that we just had to point this one out!

7. We have stronger immune systems.

No wonder men act like such babies when they have a sniffle — women really do have stronger immune systems than men! If there are little battles going on in our bodies, women have a secret weapon: estrogen. A study done by McGill University indicated that estrogen gives women an edge when it comes to fighting off infections. That's because estrogen confronts a certain enzyme that often hinders the body's first line of defense against bacteria and viruses.

8. We live longer.

Among the world's population of those who are over 100 years old, 85 percent are women, according to the New England Centenarian Study. In general, women continue to live five to 10 years longer than men as well.

9. We're better managers, especially in this economy.

This one is a little controversial, but a slew of experts are confident that women make greater bosses because they are better listeners, mentors, problem solvers, and multitaskers than their male counterparts. In a recent Daily News article, management expert Jay Forte said, "It's a very service-oriented economy [right now], so you need employees to be motivated. Women are better connectors than men and more astute about knowing how to activate passion in their employees."

10. We invest better.

A study of 100,000 portfolios showed that women's investment returns outperform men's, 18 percent to 11 percent. This could be because women are typically more cautious with their investment decisions and think longer term.

source: www.cosmopolitan.com

Save Blind Date

We have heard so many scary stories about blind date. Actually, blind date is not so frightening. Its can be funny and safety as well. If you feel scare, you may bring your cell phone anywhere you go or may be set up a ”Double Date”, so that you can have a friend to accompany you.

The main key of this blind date is YOUR SELF. So, Prepare Yourself.
Do you really want to do it? Get a real reason why you should do it. If you ready, really, and get a clear vision why you want to do this then, keep on reading this article.

Here are 6 tips for you:
1. Where To Go
you should choose a place that everyone can visit at all, or such public place, so you will feel more relaxed and have fun in the public area.

For blind date, you better avoid any kind of lunch or dinner date, because when the blind date not going well, you re stuck together in entire meal for that time. Same thing with watching movie, it will make your blind date simple and short.

My advice, you better keep your date as simple as you can, so when you are not interested in them, you may make a quick exit. But if u interested in them, you can arrange to meet them again.

My advice, the best date should be:
a. in a café, meet for a coffee
b. A dessert in the evening
c. Lunch during weekend
Those dates won’t take you in a long time. Whatever place you pick up, you should keep you self comfortable, enjoy and fun.

My other advise, you better pay you bill by your own. So you can avoid from feeling that you owe something to them, or want to take some advantages from them. But, if they offer, then let them pay.

2. At The First Meeting
Select clothing that is appropriate for your date, such as a casual for a movie or a little bit more dressy for dinner date. Please, don’t wear some clothes that are too strange or over the top. Remember to trim your nails, shine your shoes and iron your clothes. If you are woman, make sure that you don’t look too sexy, because it can make man think different about you. Make sure that you shave and smell good. A bit cologne or perfume can be nice, but don’t over do it. But be sure that the clothes that you wear is comfortable for you.

When you meet them, offer a polite greeting and handshake. Smile and be friendly. If you are nervous, cover it. If you are Men, be gentlemen, open the doors, pull her chair, hang up her coat and etc. If you are Woman, be polite, keep smiling and thank him to everything he did for you.

Remember, you only got one chance at this first meeting to impress them, so you should make a good one. And don’t forget the most important one, relax! Take a deep breath and relax. Make your self comfortable as much as you can.

May be there is a little bit things that you don’t like from the person, like cologne, perfume or clothes, but make sure that you don’t put to much attention to that things, cause you will end up with negative thinking about you, or may be more worse.

3. Making Conversation
This is a very important point in the blind date. Because from here, you can get the plus point from them. Think of some general topic, like ask about his or her family, friends, or work. Keep the conversation light up.

Watch your words, tone of voice and body language as well. Body language is the most important in communication. So keep your body relax and react appropriately. Keep your eyes on them, not to another person at there.

Here some advise what you better ask:
- Ask about them
- Ask about they job
- Ask about they family
- Ask about they hobby
- Ask about where they lived
- Discuss about music, film, food, but don’t politic.
- Talk about your self, but don’t make the entire conversation become yours.
- Show some interest about what they say

Make sure that you avoid this question:
- Past relationships
- Speak bad about someone
- Say anything stupid and mean.
- Talk about something that they don’t really interest on it.

4. Watch Out
While you are with them, there are something that you should watch as you “warning sings” such as:
- Talk about past relationship in the date.
- Talk badly about his or her family.
- Drinks a lot
- Do not pay attention to you
- Wearing a wedding ring
- Displaying something illegal, rude, disturbing, criminal, mentally ill behavior

My advice, you better make a quit exit strategy in this case.

5. Quit
Even the date going very well, it will be an exit to quit from the date. How if the person that you date, you don’t really like? And you in the single blind date?
You better have a friend that standby and you hold your phone all the times. So, you need to make an excuse to your self, hit the bathroom and call you friend to pick you up in several minutes.
How if you can’t stand anymore with your dates?
Tell them that you have an important appointment after this and you can’t cancel your appointment. Like with you mother, father or may be workmate.

6. End the Date
Finally, you should say good bye to your date mate. Whatever you enjoy the date or not. Make sure that you say thank to what both of you have walk trough. If you interest with the person, let them know that you really like to see and meet them again. So, you may give your phone number, email address or any kind of contact number to reach you.
If you don’t interest with the person, make sure that you won’t give your number and say’ “Call me.” Or giving a hope like you are going to meet them someday. Try to be honest, if you don’t like it, you might say, “I think we have a lot of in common.” Be kind and always make an effort to spare from them feeling.

All blind dates don’t much different from your first date.
Hopefully with this tips you can enjoy you blind date, and get you to your another blind date.

Asking Someone On a Date

Do you want to ask someone to have a date with you, but you don’t know what should you prepare?

Ok here is some guidelines for you.

Choose the right moment.

See her or his mood. Don’t go and ask her or him, while her or him in work, eating, in a group. Ask when she or he is free, no one beside them and she or he got nothing much to do.

Practice what you should say.

Make it simple, not to long and berputar-putar. Example, “Hi! My name is …. And I’m wondering if you are free for tonight dinner?” That’s enough. Practice it, in front of your mirror better, so you don’t appear in her of him face with tongue-tied.

Possibility, if she or he say no.

Prepare your self in this answer. Because if this happen, don’t take the rejection too personally, may be the rejection because she or he busy or don’t know you very well. So just thinking, later, when you ask, they will say, “YES!”

Prepare the date, time, and place.

Be sure that you have an idea which place that you are taking them going out. You better chose a place that you know very well, I mean the food, drink and place. So you don’t feel uncomfortable. When you feel uncomfortable, she or he will feel the same feeling as well.

Create sense of trust while talking.

Some people will ask, why you want to date them. Better you preparing the answer for that question. Because, people can be wary and may want to know some reason behind your request. You can say, “I always thought you are great fun… “ and so on.

Smile and make some humor.

Humor can break the gap between you. So when you feel a little but weird, just ad some humor while the conversation. Don’t forget the smile, because smile can bring you positive personality. Be happy and confident while dating.

Avoid asking them out while drunk.

Don’t ever try to take a shot while they drunk. Because, they will think you want to take some advantages from them. Better let them calm down, by giving some tea or coffee till not really drunk or just send them go home.

Don’t give them a pressure.

While talking if they want to think about it, let them. If they don’t want to answer you question just forget it, jump in to another topic.

Prepare for another date.

After this date, you will like to have another date whit them right? (if you like and comfortable with them). So you should prepare for another place to date, provide another place, time and location for your date.

Good luck.

Enjoy your date.

Attract Opposite Sex - Any Time

For some people, attracting the opposite sex is very easy. But for some people it takes a lot of time to work on it, and for some people, everything does not work at all. If you know how to talk, act right, and approach in front of her or him, then your get chances of success.

So here some tips that I think can be use full.

If your are trying to approach the person that you’re interested in, first things first, make sure that you don’t come on too strong and don’t appear too interested. That will make you appears so desperate or needy, and they will fell a little bit uncomfortable to you, and as the result she or he will immediate turn- off.

Appearance. Not mean that you should spend enough money to build your good appearance. But at least you use some good enough and polite cloths.

Be confident and use eye contact. Do not stutter or nervous when talking with her. It makes you value going down in her or his eyes. Try, keep your tone. Believe in yourself that you are able to do so. While you are talking, keep on looking her or his eyes.

Stay cool. Perhaps there is some discussion in the section that you do not understand or do not like. Stay cool, so your eyes do not look fool in the opposite sex.

Focus on what she or he says. Nobody like somebody full talk about themselves. Focus more on being a good listener.

Repeat her or his name while in the conversation. That’s make them know that you are respect him and feel he is in a conversation.

Add some humor. It can break ice in the conversation. If you can make them laugh, it can break the tension and she or he will feel more comfortable around you.